Thank you for your sacrifice.

Work stress spillover. It is real. It is one thing to experience work stress spillover in a conventional relationship, however, traumatic work experiences for first responders and how they impact marriage is taking it to a whole new level. Work stress spillover is often associated with poor relationship functioning and lowered marital satisfaction. It is tough on the first responder, as their work experience is unique in what they witness daily, and on their partner or spouse, as dealing with a partner’s stress comes with its own tense feelings that contribute to the overall wellbeing of the relationship.

First responders are known to be physically and mentally fit. The onboarding process is stringent, the day-to-day responsibilities demanding. Over time, physical and mental fitness may waiver, triggering negative behaviors and habits to self-soothe. Unfortunately, for couples, the partner or spouse of one who is struggling, may also be struggling to manage their own career, make social plans, take care of the children and practice self-care. The more they strive to keep up with appearances, the less energy they have for all the above, while still dealing with their first responder partner’s anxiety.

Behavioral symptoms for both partners may include:

• Hyper-sensitivity and emotion
• The feeling of being on edge
• Trouble remembering, organizing, or functioning in the day-to-day
• Indecisiveness
• Self-medicating with alcohol or drugs

What to do?

We created The Compassion Alliance for first responders, retirees, and spouses. Spouses, we see you. We are here to help you, confidentially, and for free. The way we see it, you are serving the people as your partner is. Spouses of first responders deserve mental wholeness too. We value your contribution.

If you or someone you love is a spouse of a first responder and feeling any or all these emotions, please contact us through our confidential form, or by phone. Our team can coordinate a consultation with a behavioral health specialist that will help you regain control of your life so that you can live it to the fullest – mind, body, spirit.